PREPARING YOURSELF FOR A
"Making your actions coincide with your words!"
Now we get to self reflection! Self reflection is
looking at your own actions and ways of doing things to see if they
are matching the things in life that you want. Ever wonder why you
can't make things move forward in your life while trying to maintain
some kind of life. Its simple your actions don't meet what your mind
wants. You have to reprogram yourself and your actions that you are
doing. Lets get directly to a situation that I have talked with many
individuals in the past.
I had an individual call me that wanted their love
back. Now they were with someone else at the moment because they
didn't want to be alone. Sound like nothing big, everyone's done it,
right? This is what is what is commonly referred to as the rebound.
Now this individual was absolutely head over hears about wanting to
get their love back telling me how much they loved the person and
how much they would do to be with this person. It was truly a person
that had true love for the individual that they wanted, but just
didn't know how to reconcile with this person.
The next part that I had to explain to this person
is that they were working away from their goals. Even though the
person that this individual was with didn't know about the previous
relationship it is still not fair nor working towards the ultimate
goal of getting the intended target back. Also, you have to look at
it from this stand point, you are not being fair to the person you
are with if your thoughts are just simply on your hearts desire. How
can you carry on a relationship with anyone if you are just thinking
of the other person. You can't. You are not devoting 100% to the
person you are with. That also doesn't show Divinity that you are
serious about wanting your hearts desire back. It show Divinity that
you are still unsure of what you want and that you are just wanting
to see what else is out there. If you want to be with your hearts
desire, then remain true to what you want. Don't be out there
running around like a teenager. Work on yourself and make yourself
ready for this person.
Don't get the wrong idea here. If a good friend of
yours that happens to be of the opposite sex asks you out, I
wouldn't ignore them. There isn't anything wrong with going out and
having a good time or eating dinner with a friend. It only becomes a
problem when that dinner becomes more than a dinner. Whether you
wanted it to or not. Keep this in mind, if you do something like
this then Divinity will not bring you your previous hearts desire
back. This is because you have shown Divinity that you really don't
know what you want.
The next part that you should look into is your
finances and job situation. Yes, I know in this economy its hard to
find a job, but it is essential to your success to do so. If your
hearts desire wants to come back to you and you have no funds, no
place to stay, no money for rent, etc, you have made your situation
worse. Not only do you not have the money for these things but you
have put a serious wedge in the relationship. You have shown
yourself as unstable and insecure. You must always look forward of
the relationship and do things accordingly. This will make an easy
transition for you and your hearts desire. Thus giving you the
highest chances of success for your hearts desire comes back to you.
Next is the old game of cat and mouse. Everyone at
one time or another has had to play this game. You know, push
someone away to get them to come back to you or you pull them close
and watch them run away. Some people even go as far as telling the
other individual things that they don't mean. Example, I don't want
to be with you, etc. Now to a degree, cat and mouse is ok, but you
have to keep it within reason. Watch for those things that cause
permanent damage to a relationship and put wedges between you and
your hearts desire. Though it is true, if you push someone that
loves you away they will return you have to keep it within reason.
Don't push to much and don't damage the relationship with hurtful
things that you can't take back. There are certain areas that you
also should in the heat of the moment keep in mind. Don't try to
take stabs at your hearts desire, as everyone knows you can. Who
knows a person more than a lover? You know just how to hurt a person
more than anyone else could. Avoid these areas of topics.
A good way to do all of this is to simply write
out your goals on a piece of paper. List all the things that you
want in life. Number them from 1 to what ever. Listing them as
number one being the most important to you and the last being
the last thing that doesn't mean that much. Once you have this
list, make a list of the things that are happening with your
life at the moment. (In order for this to work, you must be
honest with yourself) If you with someone else, then write it.
That is the path that you are on, not being with your hearts
desire. List these things just the same as you did the other.
Now set these lists beside each other and compare them. That
will give you a good idea of what patch you are traveling. It
will also show you how your actions are not matching what you
are wanting. Next you can devise a plan to change each of these
aspects. You plan may not be easy, nor without catches, but you
must try and work on ever aspect to change your future. This
will help to get you on the right path and ensure that when your
hearts desire does in fact come back it is positive and that
they do want to be with you.
Another good thing to keep in mind is if you are
wanting your hearts desire to come back to you, show positive
support! Even though they might not be back with you at the time
of your initial contact, do encourage them to be positive and
let them know that you are there for them. This will go a long
way when they look back on it.
In short! If you are not where you want to be in
life. CHANGE IT!